lostlilshedevil asked: My father’s health is horrible. He can barely see, can barely hear, he has diabetes, cataracts, high blood sugar, and high blood pressure. Recently, I have taken care of the legal matters from my only grandparent’s death so that my father wouldn’t have to (i.e. finding a lawyer, dealing with the IRS and the 40,000 in fines he had, I sold my grandmother’s house to pay the bills as well). My grandmother’s house was supposed to go to me and my brother, but my dad and step-mother spent all of the money (half on legal fees and taxes) and the rest on themselves. My father also blew our college fund when we were little, my brother and I both have student loans and we both want to further our education (he wants a PhD, I want to go to law school, but funds are tight for us). My stepmom spends every dime they have on jewelry, toys, big screen TV’s (they have three), vehicles (they have three trucks, and one car, and they want a jeep as well).
I just recently got him home owners insurance (that I am paying for), because I don’t want him being sued or not have money for a home if the house burns down.
I feel that my father is not mentally able to be financially responsible. Especially that lately he has told me he is becoming mentally unbalanced (he said he couldn’t figure out why the shower was spraying only hot water, and it took him several minutes to figure out that there was a cold water faucet…this has happened several times)…there are more examples, but this is already too long.
What can I legally do without hurting him? My stepmother hates, me doesn’t want me involved in ‘their’ life, even though I have only been nice to her (seriously).
The only thing that is left is our ranch, which has been in the family for 100 years; I do not want my stepmother convincing my dad to sell it. I’m scared we are going to lose what little family we have left and the ranch with it, and soon after the money from that dries up, I’m sure my stepmom will leave.
I’m 25, so yes, I’m over the age of 16. My stepmom is from Asia and barely speaks English, she doesn’t understand the laws here either. I’ve had to file police reports (that go nowhere,because my dad wont say anything) after my stepmom has hit and slapped my dad several times. (she also has forbidden him to buy me or my brother gifts for Christmas or our birthdays, we also buy my dad gifts though…not her anymore) It’s not about the money (not 100%, although I am pissed my grandmother’s wishes were not honored even after my dad said we could have the house), it’s about protecting what little family I have left. My mother died when I was 19, and my father was kept away by a court order until I was old enough to know the truth (too much to go into). I have two bachelors degrees that I paid for on my own, I’m in the process of getting into law school, so I know I can make me own money, I do not count on inheirting anything. I feel like the only responsible person in this family.
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